how to come out of your shell and make friends in college
Grind for grades, grind for connections, grind for recommendations. In the words of capitalist Kool-Aid drinking millennials on Twitter, ‘the grind never stops.’
THE ROAD TO MAKING FRIENDS is not easy. Trust me, I know. Every person back in high school told me again and again that college is the last step. The final boss. Bowser’s last gambit before you save Peach and get her cake. But that is not how real life works. Instead, like is more like one of my favorite games, Destiny 2. You do the main story, level up, and GRIND. YOU GRIND AND GRIND AND GRIND. Grind for grades, grind for connections, grind for recommendations. In the words of capitalist Kool-Aid drinking millennials on Twitter, “The grind never stops.”
Here are some tips for you to be on your way!
1
look for clubs
Find one thing you like, it doesn’t even have to be a popular thing either, clubs at college can be very niche! Heck, I even found a Communism club! (Don’t ask what happened to them though, just because I know about Liberty Prime, doesn’t mean that I condone his actions.) What matters is to find one thing you like and follow it.
2
talk to people
People come to these clubs to make friends, if people are there with a clique, ignore them. They are nothing but trouble and are mostly there for attention. Save yourself the drama and pain and go for individuals.
3
survive.
This is the most important tip. There will be parts where it feels like all the clubs are dead ends, where it seems people don’t like you, and where nothing good is happening. I’ve been there before. What matters is to persevere, keep your head up high, and keep moving forward. You have four, and hell, maybe even more than that, years to keep looking. A diamond can be found in the rough.
Okay that last step was serious. So serious, in fact, I needed to wear actual pants while writing it.
But it remains the same. Keep surviving and focus on you first. Not your family, not your professor, just you. One comes to college to better themselves and help someone, but sometimes, that one person you save may be yourself.
how to come out of your shell and make friends in college
by Guillermo
Grind for grades, grind for connections, grind for recommendations. In the words of capitalist Kool-Aid drinking millennials on Twitter, ‘the grind never stops.’
THE ROAD TO MAKING FRIENDS is not easy. Trust me, I know. Every person back in high school told me again and again that college is the last step. The final boss. Bowser’s last gambit before you save Peach and get her cake. But that is not how real life works. Instead, like is more like one of my favorite games, Destiny 2. You do the main story, level up, and GRIND. YOU GRIND AND GRIND AND GRIND. Grind for grades, grind for connections, grind for recommendations. In the words of capitalist Kool-Aid drinking millennials on Twitter, “The grind never stops.”
Here are some tips for you to be on your way!
1
look for clubs
Find one thing you like, it doesn’t even have to be a popular thing either, clubs at college can be very niche! Heck, I even found a Communism club! (Don’t ask what happened to them though, just because I know about Liberty Prime, doesn’t mean that I condone his actions.) What matters is to find one thing you like and follow it.
2
talk to people
People come to these clubs to make friends, if people are there with a clique, ignore them. They are nothing but trouble and are mostly there for attention. Save yourself the drama and pain and go for individuals.
3
survive.
This is the most important tip. There will be parts where it feels like all the clubs are dead ends, where it seems people don’t like you, and where nothing good is happening. I’ve been there before. What matters is to persevere, keep your head up high, and keep moving forward. You have four, and hell, maybe even more than that, years to keep looking. A diamond can be found in the rough.
Okay that last step was serious. So serious, in fact, I needed towear actual pants while writing it.
But it remains the same. Keep surviving and focus on you first. Not your family, not your professor, just you. One comes to college to better themselves and help someone, but sometimes, that one person you save may be yourself.